Are You Good Enough?

When I was younger I often struggled with the question of being good enough, and even now that I’m older the same is sadly sometimes still true. As a skinny, insecure kid growing up in Chicago, I never felt like I quite measured up. I was never good enough to make the high school team, impress all the cute girls or earn straight A’s. Maybe you can relate. But what’s worse is that I never felt like I measured up in the eyes of God either. When I was baptized at the age of eight I wanted forgiveness for not being good enough and to avoid the penalty of hell. Most people today don’t seem to have that concern.

In many ways we live in a grace-saturated culture. These days few people, young or old, seem to struggle much with the salvation issue. Perhaps it’s just assumed that most everyone deserves an eternal trophy just for showing up at death’s door. Now it seems the issue of “good enough” has a new twist. Here’s how Anthony Bradley of The King’s College put it when describing the attitude of our time among young Christians:

It’s not necessarily, ‘Am I good enough to escape eternal punishment?’ It’s rather, ‘Am I good enough to fulfill the mission that I’ve been told constitutes being a good Christian or a great Christian?’ So, ‘Am I a good Christian if I’m not a senator, a judge, saving orphans from sex slavery in India? If I’m not doing something extraordinary for God, then I’m not good enough. So my life has to be Snap-chat or Instagram-worthy to be impressive and sufficient for the Lord.’

Few seem to be content with their level of influence. That’s not only true for young college students but also for seasoned leaders. For example, not one of the many pastors I know thinks his church is large enough, social media platform popular enough, or influence broad enough. We live in a world of constant comparison, and we often feel like we just don’t measure up.

This is a debilitating and world-wide problem. I recently read an article in World Magazine on the topic of Japanese “Shut-ins.” It wasn’t about old folks in their declining years confined to home; it was about young men who failed to succeed in the highly competitive Japanese business culture. These young men have become hermits, hiding at home in shame with no jobs, no friends and no hopes for their future. Sadly, their parents are also embarrassed by their son’s failure to excel, and they try to keep it a secret from the world.  Christian missionaries are now seeking to reach these forgotten young men with the gospel—the message of acceptance that is not based on performance.

Clearly it’s not our performance for Christ that ultimately matters, but our position in Christ. Those of us with a bent toward self condemnation need to be reminded daily that there is no condemnation for those in Christ. And as we read in I John 3:20, “If our hearts condemn us … God is greater than our hearts.” For years I misunderstood this, assuming that since He knows it all, each and every flaw, I’m really in trouble! Now, I see that verse 20 is preceded by verse 19, “…we set our hearts at rest in in his presence.” Let’s face it, there is only rest for any one of us in God’s gracious acceptance of our daily failures.

We all need to hear that message because we all have our limitations. No one is always going to be in first place in every category. That’s why we all need to hear, ponder and apply the gospel daily. Personally, if I am important to God only if I’m doing or leading something really big, then I’m in really big trouble! You see, I no longer lead an impressive and growing ministry because I now work behind the scenes as a sort of undercover pastor. That means I’m no longer in the lead role. Now I’m in a support role. I’m learning to embrace obscurity and find my fulfillment in service, not in leadership. My approval is no longer coming primarily through successful accomplishments, but through satisfying relationships …first with God . . . then with others. This is the gospel I preach daily, not to thousands, but to myself!

Everyone is valuable to God regardless of performance …even pastors …even you! The gospel compels us to strive, serve and even succeed – not in order to impress God and others, but rather because we are loved by God and have already been declared to be of immense value to Him. Here’s the shockingly good news: Our value is not based on our achievement, but on His acceptance. Jesus made that clear when He said, “. . . you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” (Matthew 10:31 NLT.)  Since God takes note of sparrows and values them, then there is hope for us all!

I’m now accepting that only by the atoning death of Christ and God’s declaration that I am His beloved child will I ever have confidence that I am finally good enough! By the way, grace and peace are often linked in the Scripture and grace almost always comes first! In short, without grace there is no peace.

2 Comments

  1. Thanks for this. I needed this.

    In this era of easy to access information and seemingly endless videos (recording just about every area of private and spiritual lives) I’ve often fallen victim to anxiety. I worry about how well I’m presenting myself, my church, and Christ’s ministry online.

    As a church planter, just starting out, I feel all kinds of pressure to have all the techno-wiz-bang gadgetry and multimedia prowess (that I think is required) to impress the scores of unseen internet Christ seekers out there. I worry that I’m not posting well enough, not artistic enough, not attractive or witty enough to “win.”

    The amount of “views and likes” that my posts get translates (in my thinking) into how well I’m doing (similar to the old “nickels and noses” metrics of the past).

    This article has helped ground me and remind me that in reality, I’m not good enough. Yet, somehow God still loves me and he wants me to rest in His presence. It’s not about me and my talents or lack there of, really.

    In short, I shouldn’t be asking “am I good enough,” instead, perhaps the question I should ask is, “have I tried my best in the light of His goodness.”

  2. Thank you, Alan, for reminding us to stay off the “hamster wheel” of “Am I good enough?” It will wear you out, night and day, until you no longer think about it and just slouch off into a corner. I am so glad that “we set our hearts at rest in his presence.” It is only from a place of rest that we can walk out into this deadly world. Being worried about “do I shine brightly enough,” is not the question. C.S. Lewis wrote, “Don’t shine so that others can see you. Shine so that through you, others can see HIM!”
    Grace and Peace!

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