Are you thriving or surviving?

True confession, I need my wife more than my wife needs me! Now that’s not so unusual; most honest men would probably admit the same thing, but it’s still a bit embarrassing. Truth be told, if I got hit by the ice cream truck, Linda would be able to manage well without me. By contrast, if she got trampled by a moose on the loose while hiking, I would have a much harder struggle. On a recent hike together I was pondering this point, and then something else occurred to me. While neither one of us needs the other to survive, we do […]

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What’s Your Special Assignment?

We just enjoyed a four-hour visit with an inspiring couple. We count them among our true heroes. As the psalmist said: “The godly people in the land are my true heroes! I take pleasure in them!” (Psalm 16:3 NLT) Those who enjoy “hero status” for us all live with a sense of assignment and have three things in common: Long obedience Deep joy Strong generosity After a great meal our relaxing conversation led to our friend smiling and saying: “I like to make money so that I can give it away!” He, like me, is enjoying the high privilege of […]

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Are You Good Enough?

When I was younger I often struggled with the question of being good enough, and even now that I’m older the same is sadly sometimes still true. As a skinny, insecure kid growing up in Chicago, I never felt like I quite measured up. I was never good enough to make the high school team, impress all the cute girls or earn straight A’s. Maybe you can relate. But what’s worse is that I never felt like I measured up in the eyes of God either. When I was baptized at the age of eight I wanted forgiveness for not being […]

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A Fireside Chat

A single sentence in a fireside chat can suddenly inspire us! That certainly happened for a Swiss psychiatrist, Dr. Paul Tournier. He tells the story in his book, A Place for You. It was the first book in my soul care journey and begins with a simple account that gripped me 50 years ago and has never left me. “The words were those of a young student with whom I formed a deep friendship. He was sitting by my fireside, telling me of his difficulties, of the anxiety that never left him, and which at times turned to panic and to flight. He […]

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The Purity Pursuit

“Who can say, I have cleansed my heart; I am pure and free from sin?” Proverbs 20:9 NLT The topic of temptation, particularly sexual temptation, has been described as “every man’s battle.” In my in-depth conversations many men have admitted that my struggle has also been their struggle. While we may never have technically violated our vow of sexual fidelity, we all admit that at points we definitely could have! Sexual temptation is sly. You can be minding your own business when you’re suddenly distracted. It happened to me on a speaking trip to Florida. I had just finished preaching in multiple services […]

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You’re Exceptional … That’s Your Problem!

The leaders I’m investing in are all exceptional!  Exceptionally gifted Exceptionally resourced Exceptionally appreciated In addition to these wonderful assets from God and His people, they also enjoy exceptional freedoms. Freedom to set their own schedules Freedom to work independently Freedom to hide from accountability Every gift and every freedom can be abused. No one is exempt from the temptations of entitlement. Those who are exceptionally blessed can easily be deceived. Remember King Solomon. He was an exceptionally gifted man. After he humbly asked for the wisdom to lead well, the Lord stunned him with far more, saying: “I will do what […]

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The Law Of The Bigger Yes!

Last night my plans for the next day suddenly changed with a  simple text.  Cam asked if I could meet him at the Denver airport for breakfast before he left on a family vacation in Colorado. My one word response was an emphatic one, “Absolutely!” I immediately set aside previous plans because I suddenly had a bigger yes burning inside me! Some days are like that,  when we experience a life-enriching opportunity that changes everything for the better. Few people in my life lift my spirits more than my 45-year friend, Cam Huxford. As Paul once said of his young protege, Timothy, “I have no […]

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One Powerful Word

It’s been said that the man who doesn’t read is no better off than the one who can’t. Some books may be savored over several weeks, others over several hours. Here’s one I first finished in only 49 minutes! One Word That Will Change Your Life. The authors contend that goal setting rarely works; however, simply focusing on one word does. They got my attention and led me in a process to identify God’s one word for me to focus on during the entire year. It wasn’t hard; in fact, I’ve been following that pattern for the last seven year. […]

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Home For Christmas!

“Home for Christmas” is one of the warmest of phrases. This year we are all experiencing a Christmas unique from any other before, a “COVID Christmas.” For some it’s merely an inconvenience, for others it’s a painfully lonely one, even a grieving one. For everyone it’s far from an ideal one. Ours is definitely not ideal, as once again this year our family is scattered far and wide. Our youngest daughter and her tribe will be celebrating Christmas far from our Colorado home. They’re snug and warm in a 37 foot RV somewhere in the Florida Everglades.  Our son will also be […]

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Surprise!

The only surprises I like are good ones … and the best one of all is yet to come!  We’re smack in the middle of Advent, the season of heavenly surprise. Advent means “coming” and therefore we celebrate the first coming of Christ. However, it is also when we anticipate the second Advent, when Jesus comes again! Advent is at the root of adventure. When Jesus first arrived He entered a world at war, a world torn apart with conflict socially, politically and militarily. Things were in a mess, and as the Messiah He entered right into the middle of that mess. He’s […]

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